31 Non-Sexual Things Men Do That Women Find Incredibly Attractive
There’s something undeniably heartwarming about people sharing the non-sexual gestures and qualities they truly appreciate in the opposite sex. For women, it’s often the thoughtful, everyday acts of kindness that leave a lasting impression. From unexpected moments of support to subtle displays of care, these little things can speak volumes about a person’s character.
This curated list, inspired by a popular Reddit thread, highlights the small but meaningful ways men make women feel seen, valued, and respected. It’s a refreshing reminder that true attraction often lies in actions, not words. Whether it’s holding the door open, listening intently, or offering a simple but genuine compliment, these stories show that the smallest gestures can have the biggest impact. Here’s what women had to say about the non-sexual things that win their hearts.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
1. “Remembering random stories I tell and/or noticing things about me (what I like/don’t like, etc.) without directly telling you the info. On my first date with the man who became my husband, I told some random stories from my childhood. He brought up one of them on our second date and asked a follow-up question. I was blown away. He listened AND thought about it. Made me feel valued and heard. Women LOVE when you pay attention to who they are as a person.”
2. “Being enthusiastic about a favorite thing or hobby. It’s cute when you guys light up and are genuinely happy and enjoying yourself.”
3. “Laughter is the best medicine. A man who can make you laugh until your sides hurt is a keeper.”
4. “When a guy is gentle. Admittedly, men are quite strong and can sometimes come off as a bull in a China shop. When a man is considerate and gentle, it genuinely makes my heart melt. Like men being very careful with delicate beings and objects like babies and kittens. Gentle affection from a man is god-tier. Combing your hair, caressing the face, massaging, helping you button something, hugs. Love it. And when guys have hobbies. I find him so attractive when a man has hobbies he takes pride in, especially niche ones. When they explain their hobby or show me their crafts, oh my god. I get to see how passionate they are about it, and it gives me butterflies. Seeing a guy so excited is so precious.”
5. “I just saw that in a store and thought you might like it, so I got it for you.”
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6. “The waist grab never ever ever gets old.”
7. “When my man talks to me in his I-just-woke-up, deep, raspy voice.”
8. “Awareness combined with handling things without being asked. A guy that can see what needs to be done and just does it without complaining makes me want to give him all the things.”
9. “Reverse parking with one arm”
10. “People like to talk about how ‘women love bad boys, ’ etc, but honestly, there’s nothing sexier than a guy who is a genuinely good person. Not someone trying to appear like a ‘nice guy’ or worried about being perceived as good, but someone who genuinely cares deeply about doing the right thing.”
11. “Quiet confidence.”
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12. “My boyfriend was cleaning up the yard and brought me some wildflowers from around the yard. It was just a sweet, simple gesture. It was thoughtful.”
13. “A good friend sneaked out of his job at 5 a.m. to change my tire on the side of the road, but he had just looked up a quick tutorial for the first time and finished the job in 10 minutes. He was dressed formally, and he rolled up his sleeves to get to work.”
14. “Show a little vulnerability without being embarrassed.”
15. “Looking after me while I was sick with a fever and fussing over me until I was well again.”
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16. “After a shower, they run their fingers through their wet/damp hair.”
17. “When a guy told me he had a Goodreads account I immediately texted two of my closest friends that I thought I found my soulmate.”
18. “He buys me chocolate EVERY PERIOD. He hasn’t missed one and has memorized my schedule.”
19. “When they take a break from acting stoic and are silly and playful instead.”
20. “The spontaneous kiss on the neck without the implication that they are fishing for more.”
21. “Being a good dancer, playing a musical instrument.”
22. “TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES and put the socks in the hamper.”
23. “Not adding more to my mental load. If they see something that needs to be done, they don’t ask me if it needs to be done. They just do it.”
24. “Rolling their sleeves up to their elbows when they’re wearing a dress shirt.”
25. “Don’t talk about sex. Tbh, I think it is a big turn-on when he is just able to wait until I am ready to get intimate without talking about it beforehand all the time.”
26. “Hugging from behind, talking in their morning voices, making an effort to not only make a reservation for a restaurant or cook, but also buy flowers or light candles and have rose petals around, etc.”
27. “Being thoughtful/caring, like putting their hands on corners when we pass by to make sure we don’t get hurt, noticing things, making sure we are, and feel safe all the time (not just texting but also offering to order a taxi or give us a ride).”
28. “I have an ex who could call any customer service line usually about extra fees or messed up charges and calmly tell them exactly what he wanted to be done and usually got additional services/perks too. It was hot.”
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