Guy Loves GF But Can’t Get Past Her Refusal To Accept That She Suffocated His Dog, Seeks Advice

GF Accidentally Suffocates BF’s Dog But Refuses Take Responsibility, He Decides To Dump Her 

The amazing thing about having pets is that they quickly become part of your family. However, losing them can cause deep emotional pain. I still remember the heartbreak and grief when I lost my first dog. It taught me how painful the life cycle can be, especially when it comes to pets you love like family.

One Reddit user, Ok-Support-7335, recently shared a tragic story. His girlfriend accidentally suffocated his beloved dog by covering it with a heavy 25-pound blanket. Even worse, she refuses to take responsibility. Instead, she blames him for giving the dog Gabapentin, a medication often prescribed for dog pain relief and seizure management. Now, he refuses to get back together with her unless she admits her mistake. Sadly, she continues to deny it, leaving him heartbroken and betrayed.

Pet loss grief is real and painful. If you are going through a similar situation, it’s important to seek help through pet grief counseling, consider pet insurance for emergencies, and understand the importance of safe medication for dogs.

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The bond that we develop with our pets is so pure, and it’s heartbreaking when they pass away

The poster’s dog tweaked his back and got a 400 mg dose of gabapentin as he wasn’t supposed to move so his back could heal

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He refused to get back with her until she takes responsibility, but she won’t budge, so he’s contemplating ending things

Today, we take a closer look into the heartbreaking story shared by the original poster (OP) as he talks about a painful conflict with his girlfriend.

It all started when his small dog injured his back. The veterinarian prescribed 400 mg of Gabapentin for dogs, a strong medicine often used for dog pain relief and recovery support. The heavy dose was meant to help the dog stay still while his back healed.

One day, while OP was away, his girlfriend tried to comfort the injured dog. She placed a 25-pound weighted blanket over the 27-pound dog, thinking it would make him feel safe and cozy. Sadly, when OP returned home, his girlfriend told him the dog “looked strange.” Heartbreakingly, the poor dog had suffocated under the heavy blanket and passed away.

Instead of admitting her mistake, the girlfriend blamed OP for giving the dog Gabapentin medication. Their argument grew worse, and eventually, they broke up.

After 18 months apart, the two started talking again because they had truly been in love. However, OP refuses to get back together unless she takes responsibility for the dog’s death. Unfortunately, the girlfriend still insists it was the Gabapentin side effects and refuses to admit her role. OP now feels stuck and is thinking seriously about ending things for good.

To understand the couple’s situation better, Bored Panda spoke to relationship counselor Faizan Maniyar. He explained that it is very common for people to rewrite painful memories to avoid guilt. This behavior is called cognitive dissonance reduction, a natural human defense mechanism.

If you’re dealing with pet loss grief, relationship struggles, or concerns about safe medication for dogs, it’s important to seek support from trusted professionals like pet grief counselors and relationship therapists.

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When people do something that clashes with their self-image (for example, believing “I’m a good person” but then hurting someone), they often reframe the situation (“It wasn’t that bad”), deny responsibility (“It wasn’t my fault”), or minimize the victim’s pain (“They’re overreacting”). According to counselor Faizan Maniyar, this behavior blocks emotional healing and keeps the hurt partner stuck, always chasing justice or closure.

Faizan also explained that stonewalling and deflection can feel extremely invalidating for the person who just wants acknowledgment. Over time, this can cause emotional isolation, high anxiety, low self-esteem, and hypervigilance. In therapy, this is often called a form of emotional neglect, not necessarily because it’s done with bad intentions, but because the emotional harm is still very real.

Speaking about this relationship, Faizan pointed out that trying to rebuild trust and intimacy without real accountability can cause even more psychological damage. When someone you love refuses to admit they hurt you, it can feel like emotional gaslighting—as if your pain and reality are being erased.

He also added, “Staying close to someone who won’t admit such a painful truth is like reopening a wound every single day. After any form of trauma, the brain desperately craves resolution. But in this case, he’s being gaslit—forced to carry all the pain alone while she moves forward as if nothing happened.”

Faizan’s final thought was clear:
“Can a relationship like this work? Only if the partner eventually accepts responsibility, even if it’s just partial. But from what the post shows, she’s doubling down on denial. And when someone refuses to face the truth, real intimacy becomes impossible—because intimacy can only grow through honesty, not by pretending the hurt never happened.”

It really seems like ending the relationship would be the healthiest choice for him, doesn’t it?
What about you—what would you do if you were in his shoes?
Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

Most folks online advised him to end things with her, as she simply refused to admit her mistake

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