Stepmom Makes 18YO Watch Her Baby Because She Doesn’t Pay Rent, Gets A Reality Check 

When a new baby arrives, many parents wonder how much help they can expect from older siblings. To get expert insights, we spoke with Amy Morrison, parenting expert and founder of Pregnant Chicken, a trusted resource for new moms and parenting tips.

“It’s normal for families to support each other during big life changes like a new baby,” Amy explains. “But there needs to be a healthy balance.” She pointed out that in one case, an 18-year-old girl was expected to offer full-time babysitting, even though she has her own life, goals, and responsibilities.

Amy adds, “It’s okay to ask for help sometimes, but no teen should feel like they’re forced to give free child care 24/7, even if they live at home or aren’t paying rent.”

We also asked Amy how parents can ask their older kids to help without overstepping.

“Always talk to your older children first before assuming they can babysit,” she says. “If they’re helping regularly, create a babysitting schedule. This helps them manage their own time and reduces stress.”

To avoid building resentment, Amy recommends offering payment or some type of reward, such as extra privileges or time off from chores.

“At the end of the day, your children are your responsibility,” she says. “It’s not okay to expect unpaid child care or emotional labor that your child didn’t agree to.”

This kind of clear communication supports healthier family relationships, protects teen mental health, and promotes positive sibling bonds. If things feel overwhelming, consider seeking family counseling or professional child care support.

“Setting healthy boundaries is key in all relationships, even with family”

We also asked Amy Morrison, parenting expert and founder of Pregnant Chicken, for advice on how the young woman who shared her story could set clear and respectful boundaries with her family.

“She needs to have an honest talk with her dad and stepmom,” Amy suggests. “Let them know she wants to help, but not in a way that affects her personal goals or mental health.”

Amy recommends setting clear limits. “She could choose specific days or hours when she’s available to babysit,” she says. “That way, her family understands when she’s truly free and respects her time.”

But what if they don’t listen?

“If her boundaries are ignored, it may be time to consider other living arrangements,” Amy advises. Moving out or living with another relative could help reduce stress and protect her emotional well-being.

Finally, Amy shared a powerful reminder:
“This young woman has every right to enjoy her gap year. Wanting freedom and independence doesn’t make her selfish or ungrateful.”
Setting boundaries is part of healthy family communication, and it’s especially important when teens and young adults are transitioning into adulthood.

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