Controversial Kiss Stories That Split The Internet

Kissing is one of the great pleasures of life, but it can also be a source of discomfort. From a peck on the cheek to an uninvited smooch, the lines get blurred around what is right and what is wrong. Strong feelings can push people to cross a boundary they might not have considered. Many factors – like poor hygiene, the presence of mistletoe, or the recipient being a newborn baby – can affect how a kiss comes across.

Sometimes social pressures get the best of people, and they make a mistake. This sends them searching for answers. So, how do people know when a kiss goes wrong? They take to Reddit for outside opinions on how things might have been handled differently. Read the stories below and decide which OPs went too far.

Stories have been edited for length and clarity.

AITA For Not Agreeing To Stop Kissing My Little Sister?

From Redditor u/ThrowRA-jab:

I (20M) come from a very affectionate home. Both my parents still kiss me when I come home to visit from school for the weekends or seeing me after a long time and they kiss my sister (13F) before she goes to school every day. We were hanging out at my house yesterday and my sister was playing video games on the couch.

We were about to head out and as we were leaving I told her to keep the volume on her game down because she was going to be home by herself and needed to be able to hear, that I had already checked that all the doors were locked and not to open the door for anyone but Mom or Dad. All the same instructions my dad gives her when our parents leave her home during the day. I kissed the top of her head like I always do when I’m leaving and she just said, “Okay see ya later.”

When we got in the car, my girlfriend said, “She’s 13, if she doesn’t know not to open the door for a stranger, then IDK what to tell you,” and that kissing her head was over the top… I said that that’s how I was raised, normally it’s on the cheek but gestures wildly around at everything going on so I kiss the top of her head now. She said she still thought it was weird and that I should stop because it’s weird and I said well my sister is not shy and will tell me if she wants me to stop… until then.

She was pretty annoyed and when we got to her dorm, just said she would see me later (I was supposed to come up).

AITA For Not Stopping My Teenage Son’s Girlfriend From Kissing Him?

From Redditor u/Decent-Delivery-3603:

My (50) son (17) recently got into a car accident with a drunk driver. I am very thankful that he is alive, obviously, but his car is totaled (the drunk driver was driving a pickup, and my son drives a small old convertible, most likely the reason for the amount of damage) and he is fairly injured, i.e. multiple breaks, lots of stitches, etc., and is currently recovering. This all occurred last week on Saturday, the night of the accident.

My family (my wife, 45 and daughter, 14) got there I want to say an hour before his girlfriend? When she came in she ran to him in his hospital bed and started hugging and kissing him (mainly lips but other places on his face too). She stayed for most of the night, checking up on him and being supportive, and I was happy that my son and his GF had such a good relationship. As we were driving home that night my wife said she was upset I didn’t say anything to my son’s GF. I asked why I would have as she was being a good partner.

My wife said that it felt weird seeing that, especially in front of his family. I said that he was going off to college regardless, and that she was being a really nice partner, and that night showed us how much she truly cared for him. She rushed off work to get there and was still wearing her work clothes as she got there. My wife started getting angrier and said that she thought it was gross and that I should just ask her to leave sometimes. I told her that I’m not telling my hospitalized son that I’m taking away something that clearly makes him happy. She told me it was gross and that I needed to put a stop to it. I told her she was worrying about the wrong thing and that anything that brought our son comfort was good (my brother had taken my daughter home before this, she didn’t hear us arguing). She told me I needed to step up and do my job and I’ve kept thinking about it, and I keep thinking about it and thinking that I am in the wrong.

AITA For Letting My 9-Year-Old Kiss Me Good Night?

From a former Redditor:

I’m a mom of 5. My 12 year old daughter and my 9 year old son kiss me good night every night since I was younger. Last night my son and my other two daughters were in my room talking to me before I went to bed, then my husband went in the room, and before my son left he said, “Oh, let me kiss Mom good night,” and my husband told him he was too old to do that kind of thing. I said I do the same thing with my 12 year old. I told my son to come back and then he gave me a good night kiss, and after he left my husband said, “Why are you babying him?” and, “You’re making my kids into crybabies.” Then I told him he is being an a**hole.

AITA For Kissing With Full Tongue In A Stage Kiss?

From a former Redditor:

Okay this one keeps me up at night sometimes. Which suggests I probably am in the wrong but I’m not certain.

So there is this girl from my uni who I was in a play with once. She’s a year younger than me. Anyway during this play we had to kiss. Neither of us had kissed on stage before. The first time we were rehearsing it I was nervous – I wanted to do it properly but obviously not impose upon her. I had a GF at the time too so obviously it’s weird to kiss someone else. I also didn’t find her attractive at all even though she is pretty. She’s a religious girl which is like the biggest turn off for me. So she’s attractive but not my type. She also has a boyfriend too I should add.

Anyway when we first went to try the scene I leaned in, and stopped. She then pushed into me and kissed me. Full tongue and everything. I was surprised to say the least. It was very similar to my first kiss, shock of tongue and being stunned for a brief moment before realizing what was happening. The director says it looked great. So we did it a few more times, always using full tongue like before. We probably kiss like 50 times over the course of rehearsals and the play. We never really talk about it, it’s all cool. Then at the after-show she teases me saying I shouldn’t have kissed her with full tongue. I said I just wanted it to look good and that’s how we always did it.

Anyway over the next couple of years she starts becoming kinda hostile to me. We were never good friends but I was always friendly with her. Eventually at a house party we were having pre drinks and she straight up asks me in front of the whole group if I feel bad for tonguing her every time we kissed. I’m pretty taken aback by it as there is real venom in her voice like she is really upset about it. I said kind of but she initiated it the first time so I just followed her lead. She completely denies this, even though I remember it vividly. It’s memorable, as I’m sure people know when a kiss is forced upon you.

Anyway should I feel bad? Sometimes I feel like I’d taken advantage of her or something? Only time I’ve done anything that could be considered creepy and I still don’t know if I’m really in the wrong. She clearly thinks so though.

AITA For Not Wanting My Friend And Her Girlfriend To Kiss?

From Redditor u/adviceplease471:

I (19F) had my friend (21F) and her girlfriend (21F) visit me at university. We went out to a bar, got drinks, etc. and were sat a table just the 3 of us. Not long after we sat down they started making out. I was uncomfortable because I didn’t have anyone else to chat to so was just awkwardly playing on my phone. When I mentioned this to my friend after she accused me of being homophobic. I don’t think I was, I just didn’t want to sit with a couple with nothing to do. So AITA?

AITA For Refusing To Kiss My Husband’s Wound?

From Redditor u/NatalieFox309:

Background: Whenever my 9-year-old son gets injured or hurt, I’d normally kiss the injured area as a way to comfort him and make the pain go away. I also use it as source of strength and he certainly sees it this way. I DO NOT kiss the skin directly but after I cover the injured area obviously.

My 35 year old husband got into an accident and had an injury (wound) on the left part of his chest. He has 0 pain tolerance but he takes medication for it.

The other day I was helping change his wound dressing and clean up the wound. Before I could place the new wound dressing he asked me to kiss it. I refused. It just didn’t feel right – his wound was still fresh and there was already antibiotic ointment applied there so I just didn’t want to do it.

He insisted and I kept declining, He then got mad and said that I do this with my son, why not him? I suggested that we just let it go and proceeded to apply the new wound dressing. He stopped me and went on a long vent about how I don’t care about him and that I clearly feel grossed out by him to not want to kiss his wound. I thought that was silly. I told him to let me finish changing the wound dressing but he started arguing and had me leave the room. I left and he kept sulking for the rest of the night. He then told me son that mommy doesn’t love daddy and doesn’t want to kiss his wound so he could get better. I was floored. My son actually came at me for upsetting my husband and just made me feel bad all around.

I kept thinking that I caused this situation and should’ve just done what he wanted me instead of creating this tension in the house.

So what do you think?

AITA For Not Wanting To Kiss My Boyfriend Until His Dental Health Gets Better?

From Redditor u/anonbiscuitcow:

My (28F) boyfriend (30M) has always had yellow teeth and bad breath. I was able to overlook it at first because we were in the honeymoon phase and we were physically connected in other ways but I never really enjoyed kissing him. Sometimes his breath is so bad that even if he talks near me I’ll have to turn my head away and then he’ll think I’m annoyed with him for no reason and get upset with me.

We started living together in the past year and I began to notice that he rarely brushes his teeth and never flosses. I tried to bring it up with him as politely as possible because I don’t want to tank his self esteem and now we’ve gotten to the point where he’ll usually brush if I specifically tell him to but if I don’t then he’ll forget. He flossed once out of spite because I kept bugging him about it but he hasn’t flossed once since then. He HAS lied about flossing though and when I call him out on it he’ll say he only lied to not make me mad. I keep trying to explain to him that he shouldn’t want to do this for me and that he should want to do it for himself and his own health and he’ll say that he knows but then do nothing to change. He has a great job and amazing health/dental insurance and I’ve told him several times to make a dentist appointment and he keeps saying he will but it still hasn’t happened and I don’t think he will unless I stand there and walk him through it.

It’s become a real problem for me because I can’t even stand to see him smile anymore let alone kiss him. I feel like such a terrible person but I just have such a strong ick factor with his entire mouth region now. I also hate that he keeps making excuses about how his teeth just stain easily because that’s not the problem! The problem is I can see with my own eyes just how little he takes care of his teeth so stains or no stains I know that they’re gross.

I love my boyfriend and I want what’s best for him. I think being candid about health issues is important in long term relationships but just telling him I want him to take care of his teeth for health hasn’t worked. So recently I’ve let him know plainly that with his teeth the way they are I no longer want to kiss him because it grosses me out. And now he just keeps making little snide comments about how I hate him. I know I could’ve been nicer but that hasn’t worked so I tried a different approach and it seems like it’s just made things worse. But I stand by what I said. I don’t want to kiss him because of his teeth and to him that makes me an a**hole.

AITA For Not Letting People Kiss My Baby?

From Redditor u/Chickadee_Cortana_:

I’m 9 months pregnant with my first, literally due in 3 weeks, and I cannot wait for this to be over lol. Anyway, with our son coming so soon my husband and I have made rules for people. The rules are as follows:

1: If you don’t feel comfortable/know how to pick up a newborn, sit down and either me or my husband will hand him to you.

2: If you’re sick with anything you need to wait until it’s gone to be around our baby.

3 (mostly for my family): Don’t let your animals lick my baby.

4 (most important to me): DO. NOT. KISS. OUR. BABY.

We told these rules to our families and most of them understand. But my in-laws disagree with the kissing one and think it isn’t fair that they had to wait so long for a grandchild and now they aren’t allowed to kiss him when he’s here. I tried to explain that I just don’t want anyone transferring germs to my newborn baby and that even my husband and I won’t be kissing him for the first few weeks/couple months. They still think it’s unfair and they feel like we’re calling them “dirty” when that’s not even the case. I’m starting to feel bad and like I should just waive this rule for them even though it’s important to me and my husband. So, AITA for having this rule?

AITA For Not Letting My Girlfriend Kiss Me While I’m Sick?

From Redditor u/Illustrious_Dirt_147:

While out of town for a work trip, I came down with some oral sickness that hit pretty hard – dry mouth, sore throat, soreness, and tenderness all over. I panicked, unsure of what it was, and told my GF about it. I know it isn’t a sexual illness because I haven’t done anything outside the relationship and neither has she. I immediately bought a new travel toothbrush, antiseptic mouthwash, and only drank bottled water (I had been getting it from the hotel sink before – not a smart move).

Since I made the changes, a lot of the symptoms have gone away. But there was still some tenderness I wanted to address, so I decided to go to an immediate care clinic when I got home.

During this time, my GF has talked about wanting to be there for me, wanting to cuddle and give me hugs and kisses. I told her not to kiss me because I’m sick and I don’t want her getting sick, too. She frowned a bit, then joked saying that we could be sick together. I didn’t really see the humor in it because we had both been sick with COVID a few months ago, and I didn’t want to go through that again. I take my health seriously and don’t want to be irresponsible by getting her sick, too.

After returning and visiting with her, she’s been upset that she can’t kiss me, and that I don’t want to kiss her. She’ll try to joke and say that it’s okay and we can be sick together, but I don’t want to risk it. When I went to give her a hug, she’d tilt her head in my direction to try to kiss me. She thinks I just don’t like her, and that I don’t want to kiss her. When I try to spend time with her or talk about something else, she just wants to know when she can kiss me again.

I’ve gone to get treated, and the doctor ran some tests. The doctor believes that it’s not an STD and not contagious, but they just want to verify that with the tests. I told my GF and she just got even more upset. I told her I just want to make sure I’m healthy and she is responding with passive aggression – “No problem! Take your time!”

I’m trying to be as present as possible and doing what I can to take my mind (and hers) off the situation, but she won’t be happy until she can kiss me.

AITA for denying her so much?

AITA For Rejecting A Mistletoe Kiss?

From Redditor u/pervirgin_witch:

I’d like to know, in your opinion, how rude is it to reject a kiss under mistletoe during Christmas Eve? Granted, I did a little bit more than that but everyone around me is acting like it was quite mean on my part to publicly say no.

The story goes like this: my parents threw a relatively big Christmas party with family and friends. One of them is an old coworker of my dad, who’s son always had a big crush on me. I should probably mention that this guy has high functioning autism, and probably misinterpreted my friendliness in the past.

Anyways, he and I went to the store to buy more snacks for the party and when we came back, “someone” had placed a branch of mistletoe under the entrance of the living room, prompting people to playfully tell me to kiss him. Even my mom started to cheer for it.

The guy’s eyes lit up as he stuttered and licked his lips. He even said, “Don’t worry, I won’t use my tongue unless you want me to.” At first I thought about giving him a tiny kiss on the cheek, but after that I was so grossed out that I couldn’t even do that.

I simply said, “No thank you.” Which prompted the small crowd to insist (playfully). He tried to grab my hand but I quickly turned him away and audibly said, “Don’t f*cking touch me.” Everyone kinda went silent after that, and during the rest of the party I avoided all contact with this guy. I also went to bed early to make sure I didn’t have to spend any time with him, since he and his family are usually the last people to leave (sometimes even spending the night with us).

Later, my mom, aunts and cousins told me I was very rude and I could have just given him a little peck or something. I also felt like a hypocrite because last year I also pressured my uncle to kiss a complete stranger during the Christmas party (they’re now happily engaged, though).

But truth is that I just didn’t want to do it. I didn’t want to give the guy any hopes for anything with me at first, but he was quick to gross the hell out of me. He’s always behaved in ways that are barely acceptable, but due to his condition I tolerated him and even included him in my friends circle. However, at that point I don’t think it would’ve been good for any of us to play along. Granted, I lashed out and maybe it was unwarranted, but I felt overwhelmed at the moment.

The guy stayed pretty quiet for the rest of the evening; my cousin said he caught him crying in the bathroom too. So I certainly hurt his feelings.

I haven’t apologized, and I honestly don’t want to. Should I feel bad about that?

AITA For Kissing My Platonic Male Friend On The Lips In Front Of My Boyfriend?

From Redditor u/iwbsiveokhjj:

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 months now. He is American and I am not.

So a few months ago my childhood friend let me know he was coming to visit America and he would be staying in my area for a little while. I was so excited! I haven’t seen him in 2.5 years! I immediately told him I wanted him to stay with me while he was here. At first he told me he did not want to be a burden but after some begging he came around.

When I told my boyfriend about it he seemed very calm and accepting about it. I live in a 2 bedroom apartment and my childhood friend would be sleeping in my guest room for about 4 days. I was happy my BF was okay with it though and was also ecstatic for them to meet.

So today my childhood friend arrived! My BF and I picked him up from the airport and I was so incredibly excited to see him. We ran to each other and hugged and we exchanged a quick very platonic kiss on the lips after. I turned to my boyfriend to introduce them and he immediately looked uncomfortable and upset. He was very short and stiff with my friend and it was honestly just very awkward. The drive home was also a little awkward with him but my friend and I made great conversation catching up and sorts.

When we got home I showed him around my apartment and to his room and told him he could take as long as he wanted to get settled. My BF had gone to my room and when I entered he immediately started yelling at me. He told me it was disgusting and disrespectful to kiss him like that on the lips. I was very confused and told him that this was very normal for us and my other friends and family.

We argued a little while longer and then he gave me an ultimatum that either my friend had to leave or he was gone. I told him this was incredibly unreasonable and I was hurt he was doing this. He said nothing and just left.

AITA For Getting Mad At My Girlfriend For Not Wanting To Kiss Me in Front Of Her Family?

From Redditor u/Mieeek:

So I picked my girlfriend (of 3 years) up from the train station today. I drove her to the river to go and hang out with her immediate family, aunt and uncle, and their young kids. We arrived at the river, and my car was in view of her uncle, auntie, and the kids. I lean in to give her a goodbye kiss and she leans away and tells me she is not comfortable kissing me in front of her uncle’s family. I am not too happy about this and I become a bit quiet and after a little while tell her “just go.” She proceeds to leave and I drive away.

A little background information: my girlfriend was not comfortable with kissing me in front of her immediate family in the first year of us dating. I bit the bullet and just accepted that because she is introverted, has mild social anxiety, and comes from a fairly conservative background. No problem. But we’ve been dating pretty much 3 years at this point. Her whole extended family knows me and gets along with me pretty well. I would expect my girlfriend to be comfortable enough around them and me to be able to at least give me a little kiss goodbye. (When we are alone or in front of either of our immediate families we enjoy kissing hello and goodbye… we love each other very much and are happy showing physical affection for one another.)

So, AITA here? Should I just let this go and accept it? Or am I justified in being a little upset?

AITA For Asking My Wife To Quit Her Job After Her Boss Tried To Kiss Her?

From Redditor u/Impressive-Bug6473:

So I am M24 and my wife is F25. She is my high school sweetheart; we’ve been together since we were 18 and went through uni together too. We married last year and overall everything is going really well. This year she started a job in a fashion store (it’s her first job ever) and she really enjoys it there.

So she frequently goes to after work dinners and drinks with her co-workers, most of whom are male. I’m fine with that of course, I fully trust her and know she would never want to cheat on me. Also she always tells me everything and doesn’t leave out details. I know all of her co-workers, including her boss – I’ve met them a few times before.

So the other day she tells me that after one of those evening outs with her co-workers she was walking with her boss back to the store to pick something up at around 4 am, and he tried to kiss her. She of course pulled away right away (I believe her) and she went home to me to tell me straight away. Of course I am freaking out, I don’t like this one bit, her boss knows me, he knows we are married.

So the next morning I gathered my thoughts and told her straight up that I would like her to quit her job. I don’t feel comfortable her working there anymore. She says I’m overreacting, she would never do anything with him and she loves her job and enjoys getting paid of course.

She is not even considering looking for something else, she really wants to stay there but I feel super uncomfortable. She said she wouldn’t go for drinks alone with her boss anymore, but honestly that’s not enough for me. AITA for asking her to quit her job?

AITA For Kissing My Friend’s Brother Without His Consent During Truth Or Dare?

From Redditor u/aitatruthordare2:

Yesterday I was supposed to spend the night at my friend’s house with some of my classmates and we were playing Truth or Dare. There really is no reason for us to choose truth since we already know a lot about each other so we mostly went just with dares. It was pretty fun and we had some weird challenges.

I was staying next to my friend’s brother and when it was my turn a classmate challenged me to kiss him. His sister immediately told my friend to change the dare and so she did. To be clear, her brother did not say anything when he heard the dare and just laughed so he definitely looked like he was okay with it right? Well WRONG because after I kissed him he told me WTF I am doing and looked like he was really grossed out by it. I was honestly a bit offended and asked him why he is so grossed by me kissing him, I am actually a pretty okay looking girl and even if I wasn’t, there was no reason for him to act like this. He ended up leaving the game and my friend told me that what I did was wrong on so many levels and to get out of her house. My other classmates didn’t say anything so I think they were on my side but didn’t want to participate in this argument (I will ask them when they go back home). Anyways, I did end up leaving. Do you guys think I was the a**hole here?

AITA For Not Letting My Daughter Kiss Me On My Cheek Anymore?

From Redditor u/dogslobberyuck:

Last week, my youngest daughter (5F) was playing with a neighbor’s dog. My wife wasn’t paying attention and the dog licked my daughter all over her face and lips.

Ever since then I’ve not been letting my daughter kiss me on my cheek anymore. And I have not been kissing her anymore either. I keep thinking about the dog slobber on it.

I have four other daughters (the twins – 6F, 7F, and 9F) and they complained to my wife about me not letting them kiss me anymore. But I can’t kiss four girls, and not kiss one.

My wife keeps telling me that if I don’t start kissing them again it’s going to hurt them in the long run. I don’t see how and honestly I think she feels guilty for not watching our daughter more closely. I told her they’ll all be teenagers soon and get over it, but for now, I’m sticking to high-fives and fist bumps.