Controversial Hygiene Stories That Split The Internet

Personal hygiene can be a subjective thing. Some believe keeping clean is the bare minimum, and others feel that a routine is an impossible standard to uphold. While some people believe in having two showers a day, others believe one every three days works for them. But when very different standards of cleanliness crash into one another, ugly discussions arise. After those confrontations, some involved have asked for an outside opinion, wondering if they handled it correctly by telling their stories on the subreddit r/AmItheA**hole.

From wanting your boyfriend to have better dental hygiene before kissing him to not having feminine products at home or reporting a smelly coworker, there are many instances where hygiene is the point of discussion. Who is in the right, and who is in the wrong?

Stories have been edited for length and clarity.

AITA For Not Giving My Stepsisters Access To My Hygiene Drawer?

I’ll begin by saying that both families are mostly girls – Mom has two stepdaughters (17F and 15F), and my dad has three stepdaughters and one bio-son (18F, 15F, 12F, and 5M), and there’s me (16F). Since my mom has only girls, my dad doesn’t know anything about girl products, and I’m not comfortable telling those things to my stepmom. My mom takes care of my hygiene products (mostly pads, skincare, makeup wipes, etc). At her house, she has a small cabinet full of these things that she restocks every month or every six weeks, and I take some of these things to my dad’s because I spend 2-3 weeks there.

I began to have problems when my stepsisters from my dad’s side entered my room and took my things without asking. They wore my clothes, my accessories, and my shoes, and then took the things my mom bought for me. I complained to my dad, but he didn’t do anything. He also didn’t allow me to put a lock in my room, so my mom bought me two tall lockers to put my fave things there. My dad and stepmom didn’t like this but didn’t say anything either when my stepdad installed them in my room. Since I keep most of my hygiene products in my bathroom, the lockers didn’t stop my stepsisters from taking my pads, skincare, and stuff. It was annoying because when I needed or wanted to use MY things, they were gone, so my stepdad bought me a small cabinet with locked drawers to keep it. They complained about this because my dad is aware that my mom has a cabinet stocked with these kinds of products and doesn’t know why ”we can’t share’.’ Apparently, they stopped buying these things for my sisters because they knew I had them at home.

Yesterday, my stepsister (15F) came to my room and asked me for a pad. I was annoyed, yes, but you never say no to a pad, so I went to my bathroom and unlocked the drawer. When I grabbed the bag to take one, she snatched it from my hands and said ”Thanks.” I said, ”Wait’,’ and snatched it back. I gave her only one and then tossed the rest into my drawer and locked it. She said she needed more for her period and I said that she should hurry up and ask her mom for a bag because I wouldn’t share more. She called me an AH and went to my dad, who demanded I share my drawer with my sisters, but I just said no. He grounded me and I’m not allowed to get out of my room now. Maybe I took it too far?

AITA For Kicking Out My Roommate Because Of Her Hygiene?

From a former Redditor:

I (23F) have a roommate (18F) who has zero respect for personal hygiene. We’ve been living together for four months and I can’t stand living with her anymore. She doesn’t shower. In four months she hasn’t showered once. However, she goes for a two-hour run every morning. I can’t stand the smell anymore. It makes me sick to my stomach.

I tried to talk to her about it but she just brushed it off and said she’d shower but never did. Last week, I told her that I can’t stand the way she smells and how the apartment smells because of her, so she either starts showering or I’ll have her evicted.

Obviously nothing changed so this morning i contacted the landlord. I explained the situation and asked if he can evict her. He came over and the second he stepped in, I could see him trying not to throw up. He called her and told her she has 30 days to move out or she will be removed by force.

My roommate is furious and hasn’t stopped calling me names. I don’t think I’m in the wrong here but a couple of people told me that I’m being inconsiderate by having her evicted so close to Christmas and that she’s in her first year of college, and I may be interfering with her studies.

So AITA?

AITA For Reminding My BF About His Hygiene?

From Redditor u/R3B3LL3R:

I (19F) have been dating my BF (21M) since July 2020. We met at work, and, at first, I figured there was an issue with him and showering and whatnot, but I didn’t judge because I didn’t know his background. I had got him to shower a few times before we started dating, and we clicked pretty well, so I guessed I could help him get into a routine about hygiene.

Yeah, no.

We work as mechanics, and I wash my hands after every vehicle and throughout the vehicle as I can. He does not. Not before pulling in a vehicle, not after his hands get dirty after a while, not before he leaves work. The only time he’ll wash his hands is if I tell him not to touch my nice, clean after-work clothes with his very dirty hands. This sparks an argument EVERY. TIME.

So you can guess how asking him how to shower is, or, God forbid, brushing his teeth. He’ll pout, get upset because I called him out on it, but honestly I don’t want to snuggle or kiss a stinky boy.

Two days ago he was laying beside me and he REEKED. I gently said, in my playful way, “Boi you stinky, go shower please.” (Yes stinky, its how I try to lessen the blow.) He got super upset with me! Asking me why I do that to him and embarrass him when he doesn’t do it to me.

I don’t know Reddit. It’s an everyday argument. It’s getting really frustrating, AITA?

AITA For Talking About Periods And Female Hygiene Around My Brother?

From Redditor u/Useless42999197:

My mom forced me to basically be my brother and his friend’s taxi about a week ago. When I was driving him over to his buddy’s house, he was being a ripe a**hole to me. Said that I’m a “sh*tty driver,” messed with the radio and vents, and was being an overall a**. When I picked up his friend, he and my brother started to tease me relentlessly and be annoying little sh*ts. I had enough, and I called my friend. I have a hands-free car, so it was on full display for them. We started right away talking about our periods, bras, underwear, and just stuff young boys get all grossed out and uncomfortable about.

He finally told me to stop, and they both apologized to me and a couple of my friends, and my brother and his friend spent the day at the beach. On the way home, my mom asked me how it went, and I told her what I did with my friend to get my brother to stop annoying me. While she laughed and thought it was funny, she said that I shouldn’t gross him out about that ’cause it’s all natural. I agree it is natural, but I know how he gets over that, and if I can teach him a lesson to not mess with me AND help him learn a little about female bodies, I’m OK with that.

AITA?

AITA For Reporting My Coworker For Personal Hygiene?

From Redditor u/Confused_b*tch98:

For some background, I am a 24 year old female working in a corporate office, and I am one of the youngest people in the company besides interns. So, I usually keep to myself. I have one work friend, that’s it. I’ve been with the company since 2019 and we worked from home for a year due to COVID-19.

There is an older woman who works on a separate team from mine, but our desks are near each other. She is a sweet woman but has bad body odor and very strange habits. She doesn’t have an old lady smell or a cat lady smell. It’s like an old-garbage-and-mildew type of smell. I feel bad for her because some people can’t help it and it’s difficult to talk to someone about personal hygiene. But it just radiates through the office. Other coworkers talk bad about her and make fun of her. And I feel bad for her because she has to know. But she also CLIPS HER TOENAILS AT HER DESK AND LETS THEM FLY ALL OVER THE PLACE. I’m three desks away from her and had a toenail LAND ON MY DESK! We all thought she would stop doing it when we came back to the office from COVID-19, but she didn’t.

I think she does it out of spite because people talk about her. But broooo come on! Like that is so disgusting and you are working in an office with a ton of people around you. And it’s not like she has a cubicle to hide in. This is just in plain sight for everyone to see. We had a new hire start a while ago and he audibly gagged when he saw her do it for the first time.

Anyway, it’s gotten to the point that wherever she goes in the building, people know who she is and can smell her coming. So I talked to my one work friend about it, and she said something needs to be done and I should talk to my supervisor about it and share people’s concerns since I sit near her. So I did. He was aware of her smell and habits but wasn’t able to do anything until a formal complaint was made because she wasn’t in his department. So, he made her supervisor aware. A day later, an email was sent advising people to care for themselves and the importance of personal hygiene as well as habits that are appropriate and inappropriate for the workplace. She was pulled for a meeting with her supervisor before this email and it lasted a good 30 minutes. She came out with red, puffy eyes but also looked pissed.

Since then, she’s smelled better, and we have had no toenail incidents. But she also requested to have her desk moved to a more secluded area. People also caught wind that I spoke to a supervisor about her and have made me out to be the bad guy for making her feel targeted and exposed. But everyone was complaining and talking bad about her behind her back. So am I the a**hole?

AITA For Not Keeping Feminine Hygiene Products In My Home?

From Redditor u/Icy-Peanut4850:

I (24F) am currently raising my two brothers (18M, 13M) after my mother died this past September. Only my brothers and I live here, and when my other brother (21M) completes rehab, he will be living here as well. I am the only girl in the house. On to the issue.

I have a friend, we’ll call her Zaylee (23F), who came over to hang out with me last week. For context, I have the Nexplanon birth control bar in my arm. I know it’s different for everyone, but for me, it completely takes away my period and lasts for three years (this is my second time having it). We were having a movie day to catch up on life since we hadn’t seen each other in over a week. During one of the movies, she gets up to use the restroom, so I scroll through my phone waiting for her return.

Well, when she comes back down she asks me where I keep my tampons. I responded I don’t keep them in the house since I haven’t needed one in years. She then proceeded to ask me for a pad, and I kinda just giggled and repeated myself. I’m not sure if it was the giggle or lack of products, but she completely flips out on me. “What kind of woman doesn’t keep these things?” “As a woman, you should always keep them!” “What the hell am I supposed to do about my situation?” “I’ve never met someone so thoughtless!”

I was confused. I didn’t take her attitude to heart and told her we could go to the Dollar General around the corner if she needed some and that it was not a big deal. Apparently, that wasn’t good enough for her. She called me an insensitive b*tch who doesn’t care about other women (??) and needs to learn how to be a better host. She called herself a cab and left shortly after.

I can understand the frustration of not having something you need, but lashing out at me made no sense. I just don’t see the reason to spend money on things I don’t use. They’re unnecessarily expensive. AITA?

AITA For Having A Strict Dental Hygiene Routine?

From Redditor u/toothbrushdude:

So I (25M) have been dating a girl (22) for a little over a month now. This last weekend, we spent the entire Saturday together on one long date. I thought it was the perfect day. Not a single iota of negative vibes or unpleasant for the entire day.

We ended the night at her apartment. Before we went to sleep, I went to my car to get my dental kit and went to the bathroom to do my nightly routine. I don’t think it’s anything out of the ordinary. Literally just a regular brushing, mouthwash rinse, and flossing. Upon returning to bed, she questioned why I went outside and was in the bathroom for so long, which was maybe about five minutes. I told her I was just brushing my teeth, and she immediately became cold to me in a way I had never seen her before.

She told me it was rude and inconsiderate to do what I did because it essentially “shoves her inadequacies into her face.” Apparently, when growing up, she had multiple cavities and other dental issues, but I never even noticed any problems with her teeth. As I said, this has been a nightly routine for me for years since I was a kid.

We went to sleep after our argument, and we’ve been pretty okay since, but a couple of my friends and my older brother have said I was the a** in this situation for even having a dental kit and that missing a night would have been worth not making her uncomfortable.

So, was I really the a**hole here?

AITA For Not Wanting To Kiss My Boyfriend Until His Dental Health Gets Better?

From Redditor u/anonbiscuitcow:

My (28F) boyfriend (30M) has always had yellow teeth and bad breath. I was able to overlook it at first because we were in the honeymoon phase and were physically connected in other ways, but I never really enjoyed kissing him. Sometimes, his breath is so bad that even if he talks near me, I’ll have to turn my head away, and then he’ll think I’m annoyed with him for no reason and get upset with me.

We started living together in the past year, and I began to notice that he rarely brushed his teeth and never flossed. I tried to bring it up with him as politely as possible because I don’t want to tank his self-esteem, and now we’ve gotten to the point where he’ll usually brush if I specifically tell him to, but if I don’t, then he’ll forget. He flossed once out of spite because I kept bugging him about it, but he hasn’t flossed once since then. He HAS lied about flossing though, and when I call him out on it, he’ll say he only lied to not make me mad. I keep trying to explain to him that he shouldn’t want to do this for me and that he should want to do it for himself and his own health, and he’ll say that he knows but then do nothing to change. He has a great job and amazing health/dental insurance, and I’ve told him several times to make a dentist appointment, and he keeps saying he will, but it still hasn’t happened, and I don’t think he will unless I stand there and walk him through it.

It’s become a real problem for me because I can’t even stand to see him smile anymore, let alone kiss him. I feel like such a terrible person, but I just have such a strong ick factor with his entire mouth region now. I also hate that he keeps making excuses about how his teeth just stain easily because that’s not the problem! The problem is I can see with my own eyes just how little he takes care of his teeth, so stains or no stains, I know that they’re gross.

I love my boyfriend, and I want what’s best for him. I think being candid about health issues is important in long-term relationships, but just telling him I want him to take care of his teeth for health hasn’t worked. So, recently, I’ve let him know plainly that with his teeth the way they are, I no longer want to kiss him because it grosses me out. And now he just keeps making little snide comments about how I hate him. I know I could’ve been nicer, but that hasn’t worked, so I tried a different approach, and it seems like it’s just made things worse. But I stand by what I said. I don’t want to kiss him because of his teeth, and to him, that makes me an a**hole.

AITA?

AITA For Standing Firm On My ‘Lack Of Hygiene’ And Choosing My Cat Over My BF?

From Redditor u/AITA_shower:

First things first, I (24F) have been dating “Kyle” (25M) for two months now. He has started to spend the night. Kyle never grew up with pets, so my cat has been an “adjustment” to him (his words). My cat “Crumb” (4M) is the most important aspect of my life right now. Like with most cat parents, he rules the household. We are very close since I found him abandoned on the side of the road (as a 3-month-old kitten) and nursed him back to health.

Crumb is very docile, but hasn’t shown any affection or really interest in Kyle. I don’t force it. Crumb does as he does.

Lately, Kyle has been complaining about Crumb. I guess he walked into my bathroom to see Crumb rubbing his face against my toothbrush (I have one of the electric ones that stands). He was shocked and told me how disgusting it was. I laughed and said, “Yeah that’s not great.” He demanded I get a new toothbrush (expensive) and I said no. I just put the toothbrush in a drawer.

Next, Kyle says he doesn’t like my nightly routine with Crumb. I kiss Crumb on the head, stomach, and face before he goes to sleep. He sleeps on my bedside table in a cat bed. If I don’t do this routine, he lays on me until I do. I know that’s annoying, but that’s how it has always been, and I love doing it.

Well, Kyle says I am unhygienic because of this. He says Crumb is dirty (he is inside only, and I brush him every day), and even letting him sleep in the bedroom is gross and gets fur everywhere (it doesn’t, but Kyle isn’t even allergic, so). I told him I put the toothbrush away, but he told me I took it as a joke and didn’t punish Crumb. I tried to explain that you can’t punish cats (nor would I want to in this scenario), but he wouldn’t hear it. He then went on to say that kissing Crumb is disgusting, especially his face, and he wouldn’t ever kiss me if I kissed Crumb again. He asked me to put Crumb outside the room when he is over or lock him in a “crate.”

So I said, “Okay, bye.” Not only is Crumb 10000x more important to me, but I laughed in Kyle’s face about never kissing my cat again/keeping him locked.

This is where I may be the AH. Kyle told me that I was ruining our future and how mean I am for laughing at his concerns. I felt guilty so I asked a group of my friends and they were split. The pet owners laughed, the non-pet owners said I am in the wrong for not making Kyle feel more comfortable. They said that Kyle wasn’t asking me to get rid of Crumb, just compromise with him. They said I was being kinda gross and understand his concerns.

AITA For Not Providing My Guest’s Preferred Hygiene Products?

From Redditor u/BillyBlanda**:

Earlier this week, I had a small party at my apartment. We are all sitting in the living room drinking beer and having a chill time when one of my friends, let’s call him Mark, gets up to use the restroom. After about 20 minutes, we notice that Mark has been in the bathroom for a while. We knock on the door to ask if he is alright, and he doesn’t reply. About five minutes later, we see him sort of waddle out of the bathroom with an I’ve-still-got-doo-doo-on-my-butthole walk, and he exits the apartment without another word. The first thing I thought is that maybe he had some sort of uncontrolled butt explosion that he was embarrassed about and couldn’t clean, so I checked the bathroom, and everything was fine; it stank a bit, but it was clean. I texted Mark to ask why he left, and he didn’t get back to me until today. He’s now blaming me for not providing toilet paper to wipe his a** and how he now has an itchy rash on his butthole because he had to go all the way home to wipe his butt. I told him in no uncertain terms to f*ck off because there was plenty of toilet paper in the bathroom, but he said he couldn’t use it.

Now, keep in mind that none of us talk about politics, and I don’t know what their political views are, nor do I care. As far as I am concerned, my friendships are apolitical, and I want them to stay that way. That being said, I was gifted a whole box of toilet paper with Trump’s face printed on it during the “great toilet paper shortage of 2020” and I am out of my usual stuff, so I am making use of that until I get a chance to pick up more paper at the grocery market. When Mark said he couldn’t use the toilet paper I had, he told me that he “didn’t want to disrespect the president.” I told him to lighten up and that it’s just a gag product that doesn’t mean anything to me. He hasn’t spoken to me since.

Am I the a**hole?

AITA For Telling A Male Friend His Personal Hygiene Is Atrocious?

From Redditor u/DirtyDiana196:

I told a male friend that his personal hygiene was atrocious.

He never stops moaning that he can’t get a girlfriend. I’ve tried hinting to him about his personal hygiene, but I finally snapped last week and told him he always looks dirty and takes no pride in himself, and I’m not surprised he can’t get a girlfriend. He said I was out of order and that I was supposed to be his friend, and now he’s not talking to me. AITA?

AITA For Not Shaving My Legs For Work?

From Redditor u/BlinderDisco:

I’m a 21-year-old female. I feel like I should say these things about myself because these are usually what people ask or say when they find out I rarely shave my legs. I’m straight, I’m very feminine, and I just don’t like to waste my time or money on shaving my legs. Also, I’m not a hairy person at all! You can barely see my leg hair, arm hair, or even my goddamn eyebrows. The only time I shave is when I’m dating a new guy in my life, and I’ve been with my current BF for 3 years now. Also, he doesn’t give a rat’s a** if I shave my legs.

I work for a promotion company where I travel and work at event and festivals. But today I had to go into the office to grab some materials and my boss was there in his office so I stoped to say hi before I left.

When I ducked in, he awkwardly asked me if we could talk about something. I said sure and came in, and he shut the door. He was so red and stuttering, but finally, he told me we needed to speak about hygiene. I was in literal shock. I was so embarrassed and asked him what he meant. My boss then proceeded to tell me that a few people complained I didn’t shave my legs, and they said it went against company policy that I wasn’t being hygienic. I was even more shocked.

I told him I didn’t understand what that had to do with me shaving my legs and he was just absolutely quiet. I asked him if he shaved his legs and he still said nothing. I then stood up and said if we were gonna keep talking about this, I’d prefer HR to be there and he just told me that we didn’t need to discuss it any further.

Later today, I just got an email from HR saying that they would like to set up a meeting for next week to talk further about the discussion that happened today. I’m freaking out, and it’s making me so anxious. AITA for not shaving my legs for my job?

AITA If I Tell My Friend The Hard Truth About Her Hygiene And Her Dating Life?

From Redditor u/South-Menu:

I have a friend I’ve known for a little over two years, ever since we both started grad school. Let’s call her Emma. Emma has recently started dating again since she is vaccinated and has been going on regular dates. Emma is a really nice person. However, she can be a little much sometimes as she likes to have 100% of your attention when she’s with you. I have never directly addressed her “neediness”; however, I believe she spoke to her therapist about it, and she has made progress.

Anyways, Emma has been going on dates, but she is really picky. If their first kiss isn’t spectacular or he wears a Hawaiian shirt, it’s game over for him. I think she needs to understand that dating is a give-and-take. He’s not gonna be perfect, and she isn’t either. No one is. Now, Emma is one of my best friends from grad school, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but also, as her friend, I think someone needs to be real with her. She needs to take some steps to improve her hygiene if she wants to continue to have such high standards. I’m not saying that she needs to do a full face of makeup or dress extravagantly, but she does need to take more frequent showers and manage her body hair more efficiently. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with women having body hair, but if Emma wants to land the guy of her dreams, I think she needs to pluck her eyebrows and shave her nether regions when she wears a bathing suit (and also shower more often).

Another issue is that the few men who make it to the second round want to come over to her house. Emma does a good job of dressing the part on the first date in terms of showering; however, I think her home might scare them away if they come over. Emma‘s BO tends to linger throughout the house even after she has cleaned up.

I have mentioned to her a few times that she should shave, maybe pluck her eyebrows, and have once mentioned the BO, but I know it hurts her feelings. At the same time, it also hurts her feelings when the guys she wants to take on second dates don’t feel the same way and the guys she doesn’t like do want second dates. She was mainly raised by her dad, so I suspect some of her issues are rooted in the fact that her mom wasn’t really there to teach her feminine hygiene/self-care. Also, the BO is getting to a point where it makes me more hesitant to hang out with her. Before you ask, the BO is a progressing issue, and I don’t think it’s a genetic one since she has mentioned that she doesn’t shower very often.

WIBTA if I sat her down and talked to her about her hygiene issues? I would also like to mention the give and take aspects of dating but I don’t want hurt her feelings. I don’t want to tell her to lower her bar, but also, if she doesn’t want to lower her bar then she needs to raise her own.

AITA For Telling My GF That Her Son Stinks And Needs To Be Taught Proper Hygiene?

From Redditor u/SeriousNorwegian:

Me (24M) and my girlfriend (24F) had a baby boy one month ago today, and things have been pretty awesome. We’ve really come together as a couple, and our communication has been healthier than ever; even our levels of trust and little displays of affection are through the roof. All in all, a potentially stressful and chaotic situation worked out pretty well!

My GF has a six-year-old boy from a high school fling. The father moved several states away when he found out about the kid and has only been around two or three times, for no more than an hour each time. Her son knows I am not his father, but for the last three years, I have tried to reinforce that I am his friend and he can always talk to me. We play basketball together, and go bowling every weekend, as long as he behaves in school that week, so I would think that we are pretty close.

So two days ago (Friday), after work, the three of us went bowling while my mother watched our newborn. As we’re changing shoes, I notice a really gnarly odor akin to sour milk and garlic. I searched for the offensive smell, and I realized it was my girlfriend’s son’s feet. When I leaned down to put all of our shoes underneath the table, I was about a foot away from him and couldn’t help but notice he absolutely REEKED. I was a little boy once, so I shrugged it off and made a mental note to tell his mom later.

As luck would have it, she brought up to me a few minutes later how he got made fun of at school that day for smelling bad and how it hurt his feelings. Me being the idiot that I am immediately responded with, “SO, it smells like he hasn’t wiped his a** properly in days. Does he use soap in the shower? Did you ever show him how?” To which she blushed and vehemently responded that it was not appropriate for her to bathe with her own son.

Now that he’s six, I kind of agree, but I wasn’t born knowing how to properly clean my body, I had to be taught. I told her that I felt it was her job as the sole parent to teach her son hygiene, otherwise, this problem would never go away. I also stated that with our son, the newborn, I would 100% be taking responsibility for his hygiene so that I knew it would get done. She started to tear up and got really angry with me, so we finished our bowling game and left. She’s been pissed at me all weekend. AITA here? Should I have handled that better? Different?

AITA For Refusing My Girlfriend’s Request That I Pee Sitting Down In Our Home?

From Redditor u/Then_Task3485:

Recently, me (M24) and my (F23) girlfriend moved into a new place together. Everything about living together and the living situation has been great, except when we got into an argument a few days ago about something which I find quite bizarre.

She pulled me aside as I was getting ready for bed a few days ago and had a conversation with me, telling me that I needed to stop peeing standing up. She told me it was gross and that she didn’t want to be stepping all over my waste when she went to the bathroom. Keep in mind, we live in a one bedroom, one bathroom studio apartment.

Now, yes, I wholeheartedly sympathize with women who have to deal with a**hole men who act like slobs in the bathroom, and I would understand my girlfriend, except I did none of this. No urine got on the seat, floor, or anywhere near it, no smell remained in the bathroom, and I always left the lid down to flush anyway for hygiene.

I told her this, but she has refused to listen out and has told me multiple times she doesn’t want me peeing standing up and thinks it’s gross. Now, this is my home too. We are splitting the rent, and I think I have every right to piss standing up in my own home and think it’s ridiculous.

AITA For Throwing Up In My Gym And Calling Out A Workout Partner’s Hygiene?

From a former Redditor:

I train jiu-jitsu, a martial art where people roll around and wrestle on the ground. There is one person (probably mid-30s male, chubby) who attends the same classes I do and he has always had a minor hygiene issue. I never considered it enough to say anything, and we are not exclusively paired up and nobody else in the class has commented on it.

Today was especially bad though. He either straight up sh*t his pants or did not bother to wipe because we got in this position where his a** is basically in my face, and the stench was overpowering. I tapped just to get him off me. Luckily, he did, but I rolled over and vomited on the mat.
The instructor asked me if I was sick because of that illness going around, and I told him that (insert name) “smelled like sh*t.” I was angry and disgusted, and it came out honest and loud. But it was loud enough for everyone else to hear, including the guy in question. The guy ran out of the studio in tears, and the lesson/gym was closed early to clean up the mess I made. I did stay behind to help clean.

AITA For Telling My Coworkers That My Diet And Hygiene Is None Of Their Business?

From Redditor u/WPBcrazy:

I (30M) posted here before about a coworker taking my trash bin, but now I’m here for a new post. For as long as I can remember, some coworkers (Britt from my last post and two others I’ll call Davey and JJ) have always made comments about my diet and hygiene and justified it as “trying to help.”

It doesn’t help at all, and it’s bordering on shaming and workplace bullying, but nothing ever gets done by my supervisors. Earlier, I heard them talking about me. I know this cuz they mentioned me by name. I had gotten some lunch from the cafeteria (two pieces of BBQ chicken), and they were talking about how I “want to get diabetes” and all this other BS about me, especially the fact that I always tend to smell bad cuz of BO caused by the summer heat (I put on deodorant, but it doesn’t help). I walked up and blurted out, “My diet and hygiene is none of y’all’s business, so butt the hell out of it!!”

They looked at me all shocked and Britt said they weren’t even talking about me, but I called BS and told them I could hear them. Davey said he just wants to help, but I told him I never asked for his help or opinion and again told them to butt out of my business. They all got mad, and JJ said, “Fine! Get diabetes! See if I care!!” And they all clocked in and stormed off, muttering to themselves like always. One coworker, who I’ll call T, asked if I was okay, and I said, “Meh, I’ll be fine. Feels nice to get that off my chest, though.”

However, later, one of my supervisors, let’s call him Bas, pulled me aside to get my side of the story. Apparently, Davey, Britt, and JJ told him I got aggressive with them for no reason. Typical. I told him my side, and he understood and told me to ignore them, which I intend to do. That being said, part of me can’t help but feel bad for how I got. It WAS aggressive, yes, but I just got tired of them talking sh*t about me behind my back, and I finally caught them. Now, all they do is glare at me and whisper amongst themselves (most likely about me).

Sooooo… AITA???

AITA For Telling My Girlfriend Her Hygienic Standards Are Irrational?

From Redditor u/throwaway_hygenic:

I (M21) have been with my girlfriend (F21) for 1.5 years. We moved together eight months ago. We have some differences when it comes to hygienic standards. She is very picky with the food she buys from the supermarket, does not eat food that is open for more than three days (even if it is still good) and throws away food before expiration because she has a bad feeling about it expiring soon. I am not so strict with food expiration. I prefer to use my senses (smell, taste) to check if the food is still good. She is a clean person who makes sure everything is tidy around her. I, on the other hand, am sloppy. Stuff tends to lay around a lot before I get the courage to clean up.

Today, we wanted to make waffles. So I got a banana, which we needed for the recipe, and peeled it. Then, I wanted to cut the banana. So I grabbed the knife, which was still lying on the cutting board we used to prepare tofu for lunch. My girlfriend told me that it’s disgusting to use the same knife for the banana because we cut tofu with it before. To me, the knife seemed to be clean, there weren’t any tofu pieces on the knife. But whatever, so I put the banana down on the cutting board that we cut tofu on, went to the sink, and washed the knife. Then, I wanted to grab the banana and cut it. But because the banana was lying on a wooden cutting board that we cut tofu a few hours ago, she didn’t want any waffles anymore, because she thought it was disgusting that the peeled banana was lying on the cutting board. The cutting board itself did not have any tofu pieces or other food on it. I think it is ridiculous and said to her that I find it irrational of her to not want to eat the banana anymore. She got mad at me because, in her eyes, I was ignorant. I did not force her to eat the banana or anything. I was just disappointed that we could not have waffles together because that was the last banana, and she killed my desire to continue the waffle-making for myself.

Then, a debate started about me not fulfilling her hygienic standards. For example, she finds it unhygienic when I don’t dry the washed knife before I cut anything with it. I try to do it when I remember, but oftentimes, I don’t do it because I find it unnecessary. It’s just water that touches the food. I told her that this was irrational because it didn’t change anything about the hygienics. Then she got mad because I don’t respect her understanding of hygiene. I do respect it, but as a logical thinker, I find it difficult to follow rules that don’t make any sense to me. I don’t think it’s fair that she expects me to live up to her standards, even if they don’t make a lot of sense, at least in my world. She told me she does not want to lower her hygienic standards for me, and I have to deal with it the way she is.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that some of her hygienic standards are irrational and don’t make any scientific sense?19

AITAH For Not Wanting To Sleep In The Same Bed With My Girlfriend Because She Doesn’t Shower Often?

From Redditor u/Such-One-1691:

Me (28M) and my girlfriend (27F) live together. We’ve been together for about 3 years and moved in together about 6 months ago. She’ll shower maybe twice a week. I shower every night before bed because I think it’s gross not to. Miraculously, she doesn’t really have B.O., and for the most part her showering habits don’t bother me. Except that I’m starting to not want to sleep in the same bed with her at night. I can’t stop thinking about her skin being dirty. She commutes to work by public bus and then spends all day teaching at an elementary school. Sometimes she goes to physical therapy after work, and she still won’t shower. I think it’s nasty not to wash your body before getting into bed after all of that, and it makes me not want to cuddle up and sleep next to her or share sheets and blankets with her.

I told her (in a much gentler way) how I was feeling, and she was really hurt, but said she’d try to do better about showering before bed. That was a couple of months ago, and things haven’t improved much, so I recently started sleeping on the couch. She asked me why, and I told her again how I felt, and again it hurt her feelings a lot. She said I should be more understanding because she’s exhausted at the end of the day and showering is just difficult for her. AITAH?

AITA For Making My Daughter Shower In PE?

From Redditor u/Ok_Thanks_847:

I (F45) have a 14-year-old daughter, who I’ll call Mikaela. Mikaela has barely hit puberty and is less developed than the majority of her peers, which I believe is something she is self-conscious about.

Last week, my husband and I received an email from Mikaela’s school saying that, because it was approaching the summer, it would now be mandatory for all students to shower after PE. I understand the logic; Mikaela does PE before lunch, and if she doesn’t shower, she’ll be sweaty for the rest of the day, which I don’t believe is hygienic. The school requested that we pack a towel and shower gel for the next PE lessons to ensure the students were ready.

When I mentioned this to Mikaela, she said she would refuse to shower. Since the showers are communal, she told me she did not want to be naked in front of everyone else and would just get dressed. I told her she couldn’t do this as the school was enforcing it, plus I felt it was healthy for her to shower. Again, she asked me to email the school to say she wouldn’t be participating, but I refused to do so.

On Friday, despite many protests, I managed to make Mikaela go to school with her towel/shower stuff packed. I felt like I was doing the right thing. However, when Mikaela got home, she’d been crying all day, saying how she’d had to get naked in front of everyone to shower, and she’d never been so embarrassed because she saw one or two of the girls laughing at her. I told her how sorry I was that teenage girls are horrible and that she’s beautiful, but for hygiene reasons, she still has to shower. I suggested bringing in a swimming costume to wear to shower in, but she said that would bring even more attention to her. She begged me to email the school to not let her shower, but I said I had no good reason to, and I’m sure all the other girls feel the same.

She told me she hated me and had barely spoken to me the rest of the weekend. My husband feels I should send an email as it doesn’t hurt, and Mikaela is clearly bothered, but I don’t think it’s a big deal. She will eventually get over it, and it’s important for hygiene reasons.

AITA?

AITA For Not Taking Off My Shoes At A Friend’s Apartment?

From Redditor u/ashelee607:

This may sound silly, but my friend is being kinda weird about it. So I (F24) went to a new friend’s (F22) apartment for the first time. It was a group hangout, so there were six of us there. My new friend whose apartment it was, Tiffany, asked everyone to take their shoes off when they came in. She even had a special shoe rack by the door for people’s shoes. I was wearing a stiletto and didn’t have any socks on, so I chose to keep them on.

She asked me personally to take off my shoes. She wasn’t rude about it, but when I said I’d rather not. She had a weird look on her face. She’s Asian, and I know that it’s a thing for them to take their shoes off in the house, but I didn’t grow up that way and wasn’t comfortable being barefoot. I was the only one wearing shoes, and I caught her and a few others looking at my shoes a few times. When I left the gathering, two of my friends asked me why I didn’t take my shoes off and said it was rude. I think they’re being dramatic.

Am I the a**hole?